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Grounding, Survival and the 1st Chakra

I set a goal for myself about 6 months ago to reduce the number of days I work at my “survival job” so that I can create space to grow my healing practices, lecture and teach.  It is now “6 months later” and I have recently shifted my schedule, reduced my hours at work, and created tons of space for my Soul’s desire.  My goal has become a reality. Yes!

Since this shift has occurred, I have managed to lock myself out of my car, my office and my apartment… twice.  I have been walking around lost in my thoughts, making plans, obsessing about growing my businesses and worrying about the effect that reducing my hours at work will have on my pocketbook. 

Maintaining a spiritual practice, I focused on trusting and surrendering.  With an Inner Knowing that this is the path for me at this time, I surrendered.  I jumped off the cliff and trusted that the Earth would catch me.   I truly believe that as I align myself with my Higher Purpose, the Universe aligns itself to support me on my journey.

SOOO….WHAT THE HECK IS UP WITH LOCKING MYSELF OUT ALL OVER THE PLACE!!!

As a healer I am trained to look at things from a holistic perspective.  I ask myself “What’s happening physically, mentally and spiritually?”  I begin to notice myself with the utmost love and compassion towards myself…beating myself up for locking myself out is not going to help the situation. ..at all. 

I notice I am not grounded in my physical body.  I have temporarily lost my ability to stay present in the moment.  I am so lost in my mental body that I am not aware of my physical existence.  Why?  What are these thoughts that prevent me from staying present?  Again, I notice this time focusing on the constant mind chatter that is taking over:  Will I be able to support myself now that I have reduced my hours?   What if I am not able to grow my practice?  What is next on the ‘to do’ list?  I have to do this…I have to do that…Can’t stay gotta go take care of this…

I find myself going from one project to the next.   A master at multi-tasking I have been going about 150 miles an hour even forgetting to eat sometimes.  It really hits me when I realize on a Friday that I was supposed to feed my friend’s dog…on Wednesday…that was a tough one to swallow and I am humbled even sharing it with you now.

It enters my consciousness that I have been operating in a frenzied state of survival.  I realize that my financial stability, provided by my work, grounds me.  Stepping into the unknown has uprooted my 1st Chakra causing me to lose my connection to my physical body and thus sending all of my energy to my mental body.  Anodea Judith states that “In a state of ‘groundedness’, worries about the future are more easily assailed, and enjoyment of the present moment takes on a new luster.”Ah-Huh…clearly not where I have been in the last few days…ok, what’s next???

GROUNDING MY ENERGY!!  How do I do this?  I rest, I make myself slow down, I eat healthy foods, I balance my checkbook and re-do my budget, go running in nature, clean my apartment, increase my meditation practice and let go of the worrying.  I don’t do these all at once mind you, that would have defeated the purpose! 

These are all 1st Chakra healing activities that help me come back into my body.  In this state of ‘groundedness’ I begin to truly trust that I will be taken care of.  I surrender to the moment of what the Universe has to offer me right NOW.  I realize I am at the precipice of change and I allow myself to embrace that change without fear. 

I also engage all of my other chakras in healing activities by writing about my experiences (2nd Chakra Creative), Continuing to make contacts so I can grow my practice (3rd Chakra Will), Connect with my friends for support (4th Chakra Relationships), add Chanting to my meditation (5th Chakra Sound), and I use visioning to create the life I want for myself (6th and 7th Chakra). 

Through my newfound ground I know I will manifest exactly what I need to support myself!

To being grounded!

Patty Alfonso BMC, EHT

Harmony Healing

The Empowered Woman

She moves through the world with a sense of confidence and grace. Her once reckless spirit now tempered by wisdom. Quietly, yet firmly, she speaks her truth without doubt or hesitation and the life she leads is of her own creation.

She now understands what it means to live and let live. How much to ask for herself and how much to give. She has a strong, yet generous heart and the inner beauty she emanates truly sets her apart. Like the mythical Phoenix, she has risen from the ashes and soared to a new plane of existence, unfettered by the things that once posed such resistance.

Her senses now heightened, she sees everything so clearly. She hears the wind rustling through the trees; beckoning her to live the dreams she holds so dearly. She feels the softness of her hands and muses at the strength that they possess. Her needs and desires she has learned to express. She has tasted the bitter and savored the sweet fruits of life, overcome adversity and pushed past heartache and strife.

And the one thing she never understood, she now knows to be true, it all begins and ends with you.

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Love is here...now what?

I believe that it is in relationship that our deepest wounds can emerge for healing.  It is in relationship that we can have a clear mirror that shows us what we need to work on. 

I promised Spirit that I would write about what I am going through.  In the hopes that Spirit would show me the reality of what is going on, I promised that I would share my reality with all of you.  Piercing the veil of my perfectionism, I will share with you the lesson that continues to come up for me in every love relationship that I have ever had.  I am hoping that by naming it, sharing it and really feeling it I can release it because I realize that it no longer serves me.  I am also hoping that as you read this, if you suffer from this as well, you will know that you are not alone.

I am insecure.  At the very least there is a part of me that struggles with my own self-worth.  How does this manifest in my life?  Borrowing John Lennon’s words I claim that I am a jealous woman.  I state that I have a hard time trusting men.  As I write this I accept that what I really have is a hard time trusting is my choice in men.  Maybe it’s because I have picked some doozies in the past, maybe it’s because I have witnessed my fair share of betrayal, maybe it’s because I have some really strong, nasty core beliefs about men. 

Love has come knocking at my door and I have struggled to shut off my mind.  Those old loops still continue to circulate my mind everyday.  I am grateful for the awareness that those thoughts are not my current reality.  I know they are merely thoughts which are a product of all those reasons I mentioned above.  All of these reasons which have nothing to do with what I am going through today.

I keep reminding myself that only love is real.  Everything else is:

False Evidence Appearing Real

Defenses created from past experiences that block me from experiencing what is happening now.  To witness the opening and closing of my heart, to feel the difference between those feelings, the beauty of one versus the darkness of the other…I continue to choose and pray for openness.  I share my feelings with Spirit.  I know that if I can’t trust him or myself that I can trust Spirit.  She is guiding me on this journey and I am willing to learn whatever lessons she has planned for me.  I share with her that I am in fear and I pray that even in my fear I can stay open. 

I am sitting here, at his table, writing about love and being open.  Little does he know that 2 hours ago I was questioning everything...ready to throw in the towel simply because I was in fear.  I reached out for support and my wise friend asked me how old this feeling was.  I realized that it dated back 10 years when a boy I was seeing had cheated on me the entire time we had been together.

It takes courage to witness these feelings, to feel them and to own them.  I cried and felt the pain of that betrayal.  I reminded myself that my Love is not that boy.  In a matter of moments the fear and anxiety subsided.  I felt more grounded and open-hearted and more capable to cope with the present situation from the present.

This is the gift of relationship.  The gift of seeing what you still need to release in order to move closer to your True Self.  A True Self that can relate to another from this more authentic place.

Love and Light,

Patty Alfonso BMC, EHT

Harmony Healing