Ever wonder why you keep repeating the same patterns over and over again in relationships? This is because somewhere deep in our unconscious brain is a core belief about what Love is, what it means and what it’s supposed to look like.
Many of us did not have healthy examples of Love growing up. These are the examples that are embedded in our brain. I invite you to look around your life, or look at someone else’s life, and find examples of what Love can mean. Allow yourself to dream big without limits or boundaries. There are no limits to what the Universe can reflect back to you! Once you have found these examples allow them to create a new pattern within your brain. Say YES! to all the beauty that life has to offer and allow the Universe to respond to your desire. Say ‘YES!’ to the possibility that your heart is capable of feeling more. Transform the addiction for pain suffering to love and joy. It is within you, waiting for you to focus on it.
In case you are doubtful, I will share with you such an experience. As a student at the Lionheart Institute we were told that the goal of the Energy Healing Practitioner Program was to increase our capacity for love. I must admit that at the time I didn’t know what that meant and I have only recently learned the true meaning of this.
Here is my story:
I am walking away; feeling the vulnerability of sharing a deep feeling without knowing how it will be received. He asks me if I am going to leave without giving him a hug. Although his hands are full he sets everything down so he can put his arms around me.
We embrace; gently pressing our Selves against each other. Our arms tightly wrapped around our bodies. I breathe. I relax. As I sink into his masculine consciousness, I allow my feminine consciousness to emerge. I receive. I allow.
Our breath synchronizes; I can feel the rise and fall of his belly gently pressing against the rise and fall of my belly. Inhaling...Exhaling...Filling...Releasing...
I sink deeper into his arms and I feel his heart beating against mine. I feel my heart beating. I feel our hearts beating in unison. Our energies have merged.
Someone bumps into us and we sway like an oak tree withstanding a storm, our feet firmly planted on the ground. Our roots deeply embedded into the earth, still holding each other. Nothing has changed.
Our Chakras are perfectly aligned. I am suddenly aware of a pulsating sensation in my 2nd Chakra. The intimacy is overwhelming. I've never felt this connected to someone. The thought pulls me out and we are out of sync. I feel nervous and afraid.
My Higher Self assures me that I am safe. I breathe. I connect. I feel.
Our Breath. Our Hearts. Our Chakras. ONE.
This experience has changed me on a cellular level. I come out of the hug and I am in a delicious, sparkling, gold, cloud. I sense that some neurological re-patterning is happening (I am an Energy Healer after all!). I have never experienced such closeness with a man before. A hug from my Father was always awkward and never lasted as long as I wanted it to.
I am not sure what comes after such a hug. The level of intimacy that I can feel has been raised and I gladly welcome this into any of my relationships with men (and women). Nothing less will satisfy me anymore.
Today, I am riding the waves of emotions that come after being so open and so vulnerable. Usually, when there is such an expansion there is a period of contraction as your Energy System adjusts to the new flow. My mind creates stories. Stories about what the hug means, what he felt, IF he felt, will I ever feel that way again – even as I type this I feel the energy change in my body. From openness and love to fear and anxiety.
Spirit brings me back into the present. Feeling once again the beauty of the moment and letting go of the thoughts in my mind, bringing my awareness back into my heart. Ego and Mind without Heart create fear and anxiety. Staying in the heart allows me to stay in the Divine Love that was experienced in that moment.
I have expanded my capacity for feeling, receiving and giving Love. All because I allowed the beauty f this moment to re-activate what was dormant inside of me. I am forever grateful that Spirit guided me into his arms that night. I trust that if I am meant to be back in those arms Spirit will arrange it.
Let Go and Let Spirit Flow.
With Love and Gratitude,
Patty Alfonso BMC, EHT
Harmony Healing
