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Thursday, December 1, 2011

Aggression at Occupy LA Raid...Read the truth

Does this look peaceful to you?
On the night of Tuesday, November 29th I was arrested by the LAPD while peacefully asserting my 1st Amendment right to free speech.  While on the front lines of the Occupy LA eviction I was peacefully chanting and asserting my right to be in witness of the actions that were taking place. 

My partner, Chris, was filming the raid with his iphone when, from inside the officer barricade, another police office lunged for his phone.  Chris threw his iphone and was then violently grabbed and dragged into the middle of their circle.  I engaged in defense of him by trying to pull him back to our side of the protest.  Three to four police officers threw him to the ground and pinned him down while a group of protestors chanted “police brutality”. 

Chris instructed me to find his phone which I did and proceeded to put it in my pocket. At the time, I did not realize the iphone was still filming.   He was carried out by four police officers and I followed and watched closely from outside their barricade.  When I reached the outside of the City Hall Park, on the corner of 1st Street and Main Street I stopped to observe the police officers in discussion with Chris.  They were arresting him and he was stating that he was unlawfully being arrested for filming the events of the raid. 

I was standing there, crying just watching what was happening when a police officer came up to me and aggressively informed me that I needed to keep walking.  I informed him that I was going to stay there until I knew that Chris was safe.  Four cops, one guy…no way I was leaving without bearing witness to his treatment.  The police officer then grabbed me violently and pushed me towards the other side of the street.  With the instinctual reaction of an animal I turned around and yelled at him telling him to take his hands off of me and to not touch me.  He then preceded to grab my arm, twist it behind me and inform me that he was arresting me.  I was crying, hysterically.  Bearing witness to such mistreatment of another human being is shocking but I was NOT violent.

I pleaded for my release, told him I would leave. Another police office came up to us and pleaded with my captor to let me go.  He said that I had been on my way out and there was no reason to arrest me.  The police officer informed him that it was too late.  I was going in.  I suspect his ego was hurt by being yelled at by a tiny woman who he thought would just take his aggressive treatment and retreat with fear. 

I was carted off to the LA Detention Center around 2AM.  Booked, fingerprinted and in a holding cell by 6AM with about 100 other women who were unlawfully arrested.  I proceeded to call my Super Rockstar Mom.  She paid my bond by 10AM.  The bondsmen were in the lobby trying to post my bond only to be refused entry by the police officers.  I was informed by my Mom and by the bondsmen that they were in the lobby only to be told by police officers inside the jail that no one was out there for any of us.  About 10 other women had also posted bail. 

At 12 Noon we were informed that we were being transferred to the Van Nuys Jail.  Van Nuys!  But I’ve been trying to post bail for two hours! 
“There’s too many of you.  This is a men’s facility and we can’t process you here, if you posted bail we won’t transfer you, you might be going to the center on 77th street in East LA, no, you’re going to Van Nuys, we’re not moving you, you might get released soon, we’re holding you until we can process all of you, there are more of you coming”

These are some of the things the officers were telling us.  The right hand having no idea what the left hand was doing.  I read an article in the LA Times on Monday where Police Chief Baca assured everyone that LAPD was quite capable of handling the eviction and arrest of so many protestors.  From experience, I think not.  That or they were playing mind games.  You decide.

We got to the Van Nuys facility where we were informed that we needed to be processed.  Wait, again?  We just did that at the Detention Center?  Yes.  Processed because now we were in Van Nuys and we could not be released until they made sure we did not have a criminal record.  For those of us who had never been arrested this process would take longer than usual.  Really?  Oh, so if I had priors this would go faster.  Hmm…ok…

To write that the raid went well and there was no aggression on behalf of LADP is a boldface lie.  Whether the aggression was subtle or coercive, it was there in full force.  If you really want the truth, you can’t watch it on TV.  Even the media was silenced that night.  Turn to social networks and live streamers to see what really happened.  Their claims can easily proven incorrect. 

Allow me to dispel one last misconception about this movement.  I am 36 years old, I have a Bachelor’s degree in Sociology from Emory University, I am trained as a Body/Mind Counselor and an Energy Healing Therapist.  I work and pay my rent every month, my parents are well off, I don’t drink and I don’t smoke…anything.  The Occupy encampment was NOT only populated by homeless derelicts.  Yes, some flocked there for shelter and this is simply a reflection of our current societal situation.  Sad, but true. 

I have met some of the smartest, most loving people through this movement.  We are determined and passionate and mark my words; this is not the last of Occupy LA.

The people united can never be divided!


Friday, November 18, 2011

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Tuesday, October 11, 2011

The New Wave of Leadership

I had the pleasure of being the MC at the Women In Leadership Panel at the Leaders Causing Leaders Conference this past week-end.  I am so honored to have met the women who were a part of that panel.  They are leaders, mothers, business owners and visionaries and it was amazing to hear them speak. 

As we gathered before the panel and shared our ideas, we discussed the embodiment “masculine” qualities while in the workplace and “feminine” qualities while at home. As Dream Rockwell so beautifully put it during the panel, we have entered the Aquarian Age and there is a shift occurring.  We have been re-defining what it means for a woman to be in the workplace and we are still learning. 

I believe the shift is taking the form of learning how to embody our power while staying in our heart at the same time.  We are human beings with dualities within us at all times.  We are both male and female, strong and weak, happy and sad, light and shadow.   I propose that we choose to embody all of these energies simultaneously rather than separately.  To me, the old model is about either being in your power OR being in your heart (power being a traditionally male quality and heart being a traditionally female quality).  It seems to me that we have forced ourselves to exert our power in a way that has left the heart at home. 

I was challenged in this idea; that when we are around men we must be a certain way to gain their respect.  I believe we gain their respect by bringing our wholeness to the conversation.  Our mind, heart, body AND soul.  Not one or the other.   I spent most of the conference collaborating with very powerful men and women.  I made a conscious choice to stay in my power and also bring my heart to the collaboration.  One way I expressed this was by suggesting we open our meetings with an invitation to Spirit to join us and help us collaborate for the highest good of all involved.  My suggestion was honored and I believe Spirit did step in and collaborate with us creating a more heart centered connection between all of us.

As one of my male colleagues so beautifully put it: “Seeing your being, witnessing your ability to be present in the most ideal way… inspires me deeply Patty and is already a great support for the development of my own leadership. You in your naturalness are a teacher for me – thank you.  Keep on Patty – how you are prescence-ing is deeply important”.  Thank you for the kind words David.  I receive them with gratitude and humility in my heart.

Goddesses, I encourage you to bring your heart into everything you do.  It is so needed during these times of change.  In the Aquarian Age we have a duty as women to integrate our power and our hearts and to model it for others to witness.  That is our mission.  Be direct with people, state your point of view, express your opinion and stand up for yourself while being loving, compassionate, supportive and gentle at the same time.   

This is not to say that there aren’t men out there who have opened their hearts or that there aren’t women who have closed their hearts.  We all have our own Spiritual tasks in this lifetime.  Whichever Spiritual task belongs to you, I still encourage you to develop and integrate both energies. 

As Tami Walsh so beautifully put it, just BE.  Be who you are; whatever that may look like.  I guarantee that those who vibrate at your same level will gravitate towards you and those who don’t…won’t.  Trust your intuition and trust Spirit.

Thursday, August 4, 2011

Your Voice

What is it in your voice that stirs my heart so? 
Is it Reality or Fantasy? 

Past or Present 
Only Spirit knows
All I can do is surrender and let go

Gratitude for what has already happened
Knowing the mind always wants more
Trusting Spirit to fill that void

Shall I wait?  Pursue? Create Space?
Grace, staying in place
Inspired, Admired


In Love,
Patty Alfonso

A Woman Over 30 by Andy Rooney


A woman over 30 will never wake you in the middle of the night to ask, “What are you thinking about?” She doesn't care what you think.

If a woman over 30 doesn't want to watch the game, she doesn't sit
around whining about it. She does something she wants to do. And, it's usually something more interesting.

A woman over 30 knows herself well enough to be assured in who she is, what she is, what she wants and from whom.

Few women past the age of 30 give a hoot what you might think about her or what she's doing.
Women over 30 are dignified. They seldom have a screaming match with you at the opera or in the middle of an expensive restaurant. Of course, if you deserve it, they won't hesitate to shoot you, if they think they can get away with it. 

Older women are generous with praise, often undeserved. They know what it's like to be unappreciated.  

A woman over 30 has the self-assurance to introduce you to her women friends. A younger woman with a man will often ignore even her best friend because she doesn't trust the guy with other women.

Women over 30 couldn't care less if you're attracted to her friends because she knows her friends won't betray her. 

Women get psychic as they age. You never have to confess your sins to a woman over 30. They always know. 

A woman over 30 looks good wearing bright red lipstick. This is not true of younger women.

Once you get past a wrinkle or two, a woman over 30 is far sexier than her younger counterpart.

Older women are forthright and honest. They'll tell you right off if you are a jerk or if you are acting like one! You don't ever have to wonder where you stand with her!

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

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Grounding, Survival and the 1st Chakra


I set a goal for myself about 6 months ago to reduce the number of days I work at my “survival job” so that I can create space to grow my healing practices, lecture and teach.  It is now “6 months later” and I have recently shifted my schedule, reduced my hours at work, and created tons of space for my Soul’s desire.  My goal has become a reality. Yes!
Since this shift has occurred, I have managed to lock myself out of my car, my office and my apartment… twice.  I have been walking around lost in my thoughts, making plans, obsessing about growing my businesses and worrying about the effect that reducing my hours at work will have on my pocketbook. 

Maintaining a spiritual practice, I focused on trusting and surrendering.  With an Inner Knowing that this is the path for me at this time, I surrendered.  I jumped off the cliff and trusted that the Earth would catch me.   I truly believe that as I align myself with my Higher Purpose, the Universe aligns itself to support me on my journey.

SOOO….WHAT THE HECK IS UP WITH LOCKING MYSELF OUT ALL OVER THE PLACE!!!

As a healer I am trained to look at things from a holistic perspective.  I ask myself “What’s happening physically, mentally and spiritually?”  I begin to notice myself with the utmost love and compassion towards myself…beating myself up for locking myself out is not going to help the situation. ..at all. 

I notice I am not grounded in my physical body.  I have temporarily lost my ability to stay present in the moment.  I am so lost in my mental body that I am not aware of my physical existence.  Why?  What are these thoughts that prevent me from staying present?  Again, I notice this time focusing on the constant mind chatter that is taking over:  Will I be able to support myself now that I have reduced my hours?   What if I am not able to grow my practice?  What is next on the ‘to do’ list?  I have to do this…I have to do that…Can’t stay gotta go take care of this…

I find myself going from one project to the next.   A master at multi-tasking I have been going about 150 miles an hour even forgetting to eat sometimes.  It really hits me when I realize on a Friday that I was supposed to feed my friend’s dog…on Wednesday…that was a tough one to swallow and I am humbled even sharing it with you now.

It enters my consciousness that I have been operating in a frenzied state of survival.  I realize that my financial stability, provided by my work, grounds me.  Stepping into the unknown has uprooted my 1st Chakra causing me to lose my connection to my physical body and thus sending all of my energy to my mental body.  Anodea Judith states that “In a state of ‘groundedness’, worries about the future are more easily assailed, and enjoyment of the present moment takes on a new luster.”Ah-Huh…clearly not where I have been in the last few days…ok, what’s next???

GROUNDING MY ENERGY!!  How do I do this?  I rest, I make myself slow down, I eat healthy foods, I balance my checkbook and re-do my budget, go running in nature, clean my apartment, increase my meditation practice and let go of the worrying.  I don’t do these all at once mind you, that would have defeated the purpose! 

These are all 1st Chakra healing activities that help me come back into my body.  In this state of ‘groundedness’ I begin to truly trust that I will be taken care of.  I surrender to the moment of what the Universe has to offer me right NOW.  I realize I am at the precipice of change and I allow myself to embrace that change without fear. 

I also engage all of my other chakras in healing activities by writing about my experiences (2nd Chakra Creative), Continuing to make contacts so I can grow my practice (3rd Chakra Will), Connect with my friends for support (4th Chakra Relationships), add Chanting to my meditation (5th Chakra Sound), and I use visioning to create the life I want for myself (6th and 7th Chakra). 

Through my newfound ground I know I will manifest exactly what I need to support myself!

To being grounded!
Patty Alfonso BMC, EHT
Harmony Healing

The Empowered Woman

She moves through the world with a sense of confidence and grace. Her once reckless spirit now tempered by wisdom. Quietly, yet firmly, she speaks her truth without doubt or hesitation and the life she leads is of her own creation.

She now understands what it means to live and let live. How much to ask for herself and how much to give. She has a strong, yet generous heart and the inner beauty she emanates truly sets her apart. Like the mythical Phoenix, she has risen from the ashes and soared to a new plane of existence, unfettered by the things that once posed such resistance.

Her senses now heightened, she sees everything so clearly. She hears the wind rustling through the trees; beckoning her to live the dreams she holds so dearly. She feels the softness of her hands and muses at the strength that they possess. Her needs and desires she has learned to express. She has tasted the bitter and savored the sweet fruits of life, overcome adversity and pushed past heartache and strife.

And the one thing she never understood, she now knows to be true, it all begins and ends with you.

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Love is here...now what?


I believe that it is in relationship that our deepest wounds can emerge for healing.  It is in relationship that we can have a clear mirror that shows us what we need to work on. 

I promised Spirit that I would write about what I am going through.  In the hopes that Spirit would show me the reality of what is going on, I promised that I would share my reality with all of you.  Piercing the veil of my perfectionism, I will share with you the lesson that continues to come up for me in every love relationship that I have ever had.  I am hoping that by naming it, sharing it and really feeling it I can release it because I realize that it no longer serves me.  I am also hoping that as you read this, if you suffer from this as well, you will know that you are not alone.

I am insecure.  At the very least there is a part of me that struggles with my own self-worth.  How does this manifest in my life?  Borrowing John Lennon’s words I claim that I am a jealous woman.  I state that I have a hard time trusting men.  As I write this I accept that what I really have is a hard time trusting is my choice in men.  Maybe it’s because I have picked some doozies in the past, maybe it’s because I have witnessed my fair share of betrayal, maybe it’s because I have some really strong, nasty core beliefs about men. 

Love has come knocking at my door and I have struggled to shut off my mind.  Those old loops still continue to circulate my mind everyday.  I am grateful for the awareness that those thoughts are not my current reality.  I know they are merely thoughts which are a product of all those reasons I mentioned above.  All of these reasons which have nothing to do with what I am going through today.

I keep reminding myself that only love is real.  Everything else is:

False Evidence Appearing Real

Defenses created from past experiences that block me from experiencing what is happening now.  To witness the opening and closing of my heart, to feel the difference between those feelings, the beauty of one versus the darkness of the other…I continue to choose and pray for openness.  I share my feelings with Spirit.  I know that if I can’t trust him or myself that I can trust Spirit.  She is guiding me on this journey and I am willing to learn whatever lessons she has planned for me.  I share with her that I am in fear and I pray that even in my fear I can stay open. 

I am sitting here, at his table, writing about love and being open.  Little does he know that 2 hours ago I was questioning everything...ready to throw in the towel simply because I was in fear.  I reached out for support and my wise friend asked me how old this feeling was.  I realized that it dated back 10 years when a boy I was seeing had cheated on me the entire time we had been together.

It takes courage to witness these feelings, to feel them and to own them.  I cried and felt the pain of that betrayal.  I reminded myself that my Love is not that boy.  In a matter of moments the fear and anxiety subsided.  I felt more grounded and open-hearted and more capable to cope with the present situation from the present.

This is the gift of relationship.  The gift of seeing what you still need to release in order to move closer to your True Self.  A True Self that can relate to another from this more authentic place.

Love and Light,
Patty Alfonso BMC, EHT
Harmony Healing